There is a difference between fault and responsibility.

I’m going to blatantly rip off @IAmMarkManson’s book “the subtle art of not giving a fuck” in this example.

Say someone leaves a baby on your doorstep.

That is NOT your fault. You didn’t ask for it, presumably.

However, it is your RESPONSIBILITY how you deal with it.

Do you call 911?

Drop it off at a fire station or hospital?

Do you make the choose to feed it to the dog in the back yard?

You may not have asked for the baby, but it’s your responsibility how you manage it.

The same is true for people that are influencing others.

What their audience does is not their fault, but how they handle it IS their responsibility.

Accepting that responsibility is what being an adult looks like.

I don’t expect any person to be perfect, because lord knows I’m not.

I don’t expect everyone to agree with me. Life would be no fun if they did.

But I do expect people to be responsible and think about the consequence of their actions and factor them into the equation.

If that’s not something you care about, that’s your choice. We’re not aligned on that, and won’t be. Adults behaving responsibly is a hard limit for me.

But I suspect when it’s you that their actions bite in the ass, you’ll change your tune very quickly.