As issues facing mothers start to get more "mainstream" attention, i am struck by how often I bring up a serious mother-specific issue and there is always a peanut gallery that says a version of, "whatabout dads?" "all parents matter"

from a statistical POV, (of course individual exceptions) fathers do not face job discrimination, reduction in lifetime earnings, they do not share equally in childcare and household duties, they don't face rampant anti-dad bias....

systemic dismissal & understudy of their health concerns, they are not facing a generational setback in their numbers in the workforce, (down 1.6 MILLION from a year ago,) they do not graduate college at higher rates yet make up disproportionately small amount of industry leaders

they aren't bearing the brunt of school closures and they aren't more likely to live in poverty. so before you "whatabout dads me," LISTEN to what the specific concerns of mothers are.

i am all for inclusive conversations about parenting and including queer, trans and non-binary parents in discussions. But not EVERY discussion is about all parents.

if you are resistant to fully understanding what MOTHERS face and inserting your own anecdotal experience as counter to overwhelming research, data, and expertise, please examine your sexism (this applies to both men and women)