1/9
This point of view might seem natural to most of us but this has huge undertones of racism, elitism and patriarchy.

(I know it is not Advaid's intent at all). https://twitter.com/Advaidism/status/1322054077509820416
2/9
That "should" ignores the reality that cultures, values and their perception is not static.
And that "respect" is often mistranslated as 'confirming' to the value rather than just respecting it and slowly assimilating.
3/9
It often starts the "who is the original inhabitant" discourse, as in case of Hindutva(both anti-Muslim and north-south issue) or Chinese "reeducation of Uighurs" or the Canadian Indian Residential Schools that ran till the 90s.
4/9
It ignores that a lot of current anti-immigration emotion is directed towards refugees. Their reasons to immigrate are not in their control and more often than not, are caused by the richer, more advanced societies.
5/9
It gives rise to the "model minority" idea that pits one group against another. "My kind of....xyz" is often based on this thought. It puts the onus on the minority to completely change or leave("send her back","go to Pakistan")
6/9
Then we have perception(based on heavy stereotyping and racism) playing a role
Americans don't mind Japanese(now) or Nordic immigrants even though they have very different values.
OTOH Brexit was full of anti-eastern Europe rhetoric even though they share a lot of values.
7/9
Lastly, it is discriminatory to poorer countries. Just the fact that "expat" is used for Western "immigrants" and has positive connotations to it is enough to see the difference.
Richer immigrants are always welcomed as they are and are allowed to live in their bubbles.
8/9
Please don't think that this thread is asking for non-assimilation or immigrants to not respect host culture. But assimilation should be a collective goal, not a selective audition. Both the existing citizens and new ones should work together. That "together" is the key.
9/9
Because deep down the statement is based on our patriarchal mindset where we want the new member to confirm to the family. To a point where we doubt their behaviour if it is unlike ours.

So let us also ask the majority to be better "in-laws". Louder.
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