[Thread] I think the most important thing I've learned and accepted when living with my spouse (both of us deal with depression, bipolar type 2 in my case) is that: sometimes, work won't get done. Sometimes, we start projects, but we don't finish them.

And that's okay
We have good intentions of spending the day doing chores or playing a game together, but sometimes we're simply just too depressed to. Or we do start doing chores or start a game together, but we end up just being too depressed to finish them.

And that's okay!
Depression can be debilitating.

And that? Is okay.

Not every single day needs to be a productive or fun day. There's days when we just can't function. Those are the days we focus on ourselves rather than focus on life/chores/our relationship.
Those are the days when we focus on bringing ourselves back from depression hell, so we can still do/finish those plans. It might take a day, or even a week. Until then, we take care of ourselves, b/c that's when we need self care the most.

And that's more than okay
It's okay to not be okay. Take a day off (or two, or three): do nothing but take care of yourself. Practice self care, self love, and patience with yourself.

But make sure to communicate to others when you have those days, especially if you had plans.
Communication is an important part of any relationship, but is especially important when you have trouble functioning. I think it's even more important when you live with someone you share responsibilities with, whether they're a roommate, friend, partner, parent, sibling, etc.
It's also so important to be patient with people who have depression or functioning issues - whether it be someone you know, or you yourself. Some days, we just can't. We're trying so hard, but we just can't.

It's so important to understand that.
My spouse and I are transparent with each other. We tell each other when we're having our bad days. We give each other space or comfort depending on how we feel.

It's lead to a very healthy, loving, and understanding relationship between us. We're able to navigate around it.
So, it's okay that things don't always get done. Plans don't always work out. It's okay to not always be okay.

We don't let depression rule us, but we also acknowledge that, sometimes, it's hard. We need time before we're okay again.

We can always come back to our plans later.
This was really hard to get out of my head and on to a Twitter thread, but I hope it makes sense.

I feel like this was a super important lesson I learned, and maybe others could benefit from this, b/c I use to beat myself up pretty bad over this stuff.

I'm sure there's others.
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