The Architect And His Misfortune.

You see, being a Man is not done in a day. And you can never completely be a man. What defines you as a man are the choices you make when presented with options and confronted by situations.
It is easy to say, that we men cause our own problems.

Many men need saving. And most times, there's another man responsible for the need of this saving. Let me start from a relatable instance.

Mr. A has a cheating partner and needs help. Very commonly, we blame the partner and say all sorts about her.

But would Mr. A complain if his partner was cheating with a dildo? Or be so loud if she was a lesbian? No! There is another man who has been able to coerce the lady and now, she is cheating. A man, has caused problem for another man.

Let me give another instance.

Mabel is a 3rd year student and is barely 23. Now John, a course mate, really loves her and wants a serious relationship with Mabel. But James who's 30 and just wants sex is busy showering Mabel with expensive gifts that John cannot afford. How does this becomes a problem?

John realises that there's nothing for him in Mabel anymore, especially because he cannot afford things that James gifts her. So John is broken, but moves on with a promise to never forget.
Now James is done with Mabel and she now has to move on.

Because she was already used to the lifestyle, she begins to insult men who cannot give her as much as James had. The ripple effect is heartbreaking. One James has made an unworthy woman become a source of insult for other men.
Another case of men, causing men's problems.

Another instance is where you see as many as 3 men actively competing over 1 woman. I really do not get why men do this, but it is heartbreaking. Are women really that scarce that men have to struggle for? I would never understand this. Never!

Now, let me correct some doubts that you must already be having.
In every relationship issue, especially that of cheating and infidelity, I would still blame the woman. Petty as it might seem, no amount of coercion is enough yo justify you agreeing to cheating.

If your woman ever cheats on you, it simply means she wanted to cheat.
She wasn't drugged. She wasn't raped. She wasn't forced. She cheated on you, with you in mind. She knew what she was doing but she still did it, but would blame hormones. Lol.

Might seem contradictory, but my point is clear as crystal.

Men create the problem.
Woman do what they want to do.

Imagine a world where men cared less about ass and boobs. So many ladies would be helpless. Take it from me. All most women have to offer is just body for sex.

Now, if men could channel the energy they invest in women into more productive things, if men would stop pedestalizing women, a lot of relationships issues would be a thing of the past.

Your girlfriend is being unreasonable because she knows men would still "rush" her, because she has a banging body.
Imagine if men didn't care about banging bodies. Imagine if men didn't care about women as much as we do now. Every women would worship any man who takes her.

In summary, men need to start doing less for random women. It is an avenue for that unworthy woman to see herself as too big for any man. You'd see men gifting a random so much you'd wonder if the man is normal at all.

Also, men need to begin to respect other men. Yes, talk to that chic, but if she already has a man, let her be. Do not disrespect that brother by defiling his bed. You could be nice to her, but don't cheat on a bro with his girl. Never worth it.

Kings, respect yourself and stop giving broke girls an avenue to insult you. You know when a girl is "out of your league" and you don't need to give room for insults.

Respect yourself and respect your bros.

Stay Kinging.