I was originally gonna stay deactivated, but I have some thoughts to share: it is difficult to reconcile the image you& #39;ve created of someone vs their reality, and it& #39;s okay for you to do that at your own pace. I know I& #39;m certainly a long way away from getting there. But

if you& #39;re having trouble believing her, or looking for excuses not to, or calling the timing sketchy, I wanted to help give some perspective from a place of kindness: i have never experienced physical abuse, and I cannot begin to imagine it, but I have experienced emotional abuse

it took me 18 months of week in week out therapy to accept that that was what happened. Bc with accepting it came being furious at myself for being "weak" and for letting someone do that to me. And no one who knows him IRL knows the extent to which he hurt me, bc I can& #39;t explain

it to them, because i know they wouldn& #39;t believe me. "But he& #39;s so nice" "that guy? cmon he& #39;s a fucking nerd how would he be emotionally abusive". So it absolutely does take courage to accept it, let alone come out and say it, especially when someone is so universally loved.

Take the time that you need. If you& #39;re invested, it might take a little longer, but please do not be vicious to her, and do not discredit her. We can just hope that no one else associated with him will ever have to go through something similar.