Sehyoon x Sehyoon's dad thread
I don't think we talk enough about Sehyoon's dad and how amazing he seems to be so here I go >:(

I will start with a backstory from a vlive:

Someone asked Sehyoon on a vlive long ago if he ever gets angry:

"I don't know if it's a relief or a stupid thing, but even if I get angry...I'll be okay in a few hours or days. I think it's a habit I had since I was a kid, I don't really know why it turned out like this.

Of course, I can get angry too, sometimes I feel angry too, since I'm a human who is alive. Those times I must be thinking: "Should I say it?" or "Just let it pass" My dad always told me this about being angry:

(Childhood storytime)

When I was a kid, I was one head taller than my classmates. And I used to get hit by my classmates, so I always cried. So after my dad heard that, he said: "Why are you letting yourself get hit? If someone bothers you, you too, bravely hit back on them, just don't get hurt"

So, I didn't hold back and just hit and left. So my classmates cried since I was bigger than them. That's why my Dad was like: "That's also not right. Sehyoon-ah! It's good that you're brave and didn't get hurt, But when you can hold it, then just hold it in.--

--Really, hold it for 3 or 5 times. If you can't hold it anymore, then just do whatever you want". He said that, and I was always like that since a kid, holding it 3 or 5 times when I get angry.

So things like that became a habit. I think I can hold it in well. But I know I can't always hold it. Now I live like that: I speak if I have to speak, I hold in when I can hold it in. Just living while being understanding and considerate of others. I think it's good for me too

I find this really cute, imagine little Sehyoon going to his dad to talk about his concerns and his dad teaching him:
1. To value himself and not getting pushed down by others
2. That controlling anger and not hurting others is important too.

Either way, I remember watching this vlive and thinking about it a lot. When I realized that this makes a lot of other things make sense.

Let me give yall a weird theory/idea(?) of mine

If you are bullied by your classmates you naturally end up becoming a person who isn't very used to talking to other people. But Sehyoon seemed to be very open with his dad.

If Sehyoon wasn't able to develop social skills through his peers but with his dad,--

--a lot of his personality starts making a lot lot lot more sense.

If you have a child and you talk to them as an adult, they will not be able to express themselves properly, but you as an adult who has more knowledge will be able to piece together what the kid is saying.

You read in between the lines of the sentences the kid says. But a kid talking to another kid, they need to learn social skills to be able to communicate properly what they mean, because another kid will not understand what you vaguely are trying to say.

So if Sehyoon was bullied by his classmates, it means he probably didn't talk to them a lot, and thus didn't develop the communicative social skills needed to make yourself understood by your peers.

But what he DID develop was a much more mature view of the world.

If he kept talking to his dad instead he would learn from an adult perspective and become much wiser than his peers, without learning to communicate well

Which is literally the DEFINITION of Sehyoon's current personality. Which literally just makes my heart really warm to know.

But also Sehyoon's communicative skills have greatly developed over the years recently, and this is easily seen by how he is surrounded by healthy peer-relationships now and gets to talk to them on an equal level and be social and all that ^^

If we go back to baby Sehyoon instead.
I want to mention that Sehyoon has said that a lot of the advice he keeps giving Choices and the things he says are more often than not originally things his father has said.

Which gave me an "Ahhhaaaa" moment

A lot of the things Sehyoon says are things that are so brutally simple and basic, and soo sooo visualistic!! But they are so so so important.

Let me give you some examples:

"If you smile, the mirror will smile"

Also, just such an easy metaphor to help a child develop both:
1. A polite smile
2. A positive mindset of seeing things well

Upset baby Sehyoon being told by his dad to smile???

"You can't have people, but you can have memories with people"

Which is absolutely precious. Imagine baby SY telling his dad he might have lost a friend (& btw if he was bullied he prbs didn't have a lot of friends) and he feels sad about it and wants them back.

"It's all the same situation, but it depends on my heart whether it's good or bad."

Imagine Sehyoon's dad comforting baby Sehyoon and making him see the good in the bad with a new mindset?
Just like his "if the wind blows" example from Thankcon

"I also need to do laundry in my heart"
(빨래 in Korean can also mean wash, so basically he also needs to clean up his heart so it's fresh/new again when it's tainted/dirty)

"Like a trash bin, emptying out all the negative thoughts in (my) head"

"If it was good, then it's a memory. / If it was bad, then it's an experience"

"When I eat half-half chicken I don't leave any of it because both are precious. The same goes to my feelings, both good and bad feelings are precious, because both are mine"

Sehyoon's dad teaching Sehyoon it's healthy to experience all ranges of emotions?

I can go on forever honestly. Just reading all Sehyoons small snippets of advice throughout the years and remembering that he said a lot of them are from his dad.

And just imagining baby Sehyoon upset and his dad simplifying the solutions and helping him T^T

I also want to mention the immense love Sehyoon has for his dad.

On a fansign from TMH, a fan asked Sehyoon what he would want to be reborn as, and he said a father. And he explained that his father sacrificed a lot for him so he wants to know how it feels to do that too.

On this show he was asked if he would meet the fans "Under Cover" then what would he disguise himself as, and he answered "A Father".---

---Imagine him wanting to take care of fans the same way his dad took care of him and how much he values his dad for taking care of him ;___; and he wants to do the same to Choices ;___;

Sehyoon happily talking about his dad: https://twitter.com/acemyooniverse/status/1179773056350408704