Imagine a total stranger comes to your house, tells you a story about needing a place to stay and you welcome them. Then they kill your parents, force you to sleep outside and steal everything you own. Then after a while they feel bad, let you back in the house.

Now they're upset because you want your master bedroom back, unfettered use of the fridge and to finally bury your parents, whom are on display in the lounge room.
They call you ungrateful and say you should count your blessings that they let you back into your own home.

That's what European settlers did. And it's why I don't think they have a seat at the table for the future of colonised countries.
Y'all are the guests who stole a house.
You don't get a say in it's remodeling.