So I have mentioned a few times that I am not a vanilla partner, its just that DD isn't my *personal* preferred flavor of ice cream. I *absolutely* enjoy it, but it is because my partner really enjoys it and we enjoy it together.

More here: https://twitter.com/BaadMann1/status/892169740432670723?s=19

And if you go into that thread, you will pick up a lot of what I'm about to say. Because a lot of my personal desires relate to a macro view of human sexuality.

In short, love is love, but its much more than that.

In many fundamental ways, we are still trying to force...

... what is biologically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally and sexually diverse species into two pegs - one male, one female - with very specific roles that make zero logical sense as it relates not only to what I mention earlier in this tweet (b, s, m, e, s) but also...

... in the workplace and other societal circumstances.

One clear example - we still, for the most part, expect women to be the homemaker, the caretaker AND now a full time professional.

That's 2.5-4 full time jobs and simply not realistic.

But when it comes to relationships, and especially sexuality, you have people all over various spectrums. Heterosexual to homosexual. Monogamous to polyamorous. Committed, stable relationships to simple momentary encounters.

Yet we act like its just 1 square peg, 1 round peg.

And while my personal preferences fit in there somewhere, I very much believe that we need to be more logical and self aware of the choices were making about how we live and who we live with.

Especially considering that its obvious as a species most of us don't fit in to that...

... traditional dynamic.

Now, to be sure, many do. And hey, if it works for you, fantastic. The traditional husband-wife/revenue provider-homemaker and caretaker has a lot of history of working.

Just not for everyone.

And sadly, the proportion of human beings who don't fit into that mold are MUCH higher than most traditionalists want to admit.

Why is the rate of divorce, extramarital affairs, etc., through the roof?

Why do there continue to be those who are LGBTQAI+ despite...

... *millenia* of prosecution for it?

Because biologically, emotionally, mentally, physically, spirituality, etc., we are not all monogamous or straight or whatever.

And its time we started acknowledging that.

That being said, societally, we haven't been trained how to handle non-traditional relationships. Credit to all the pioneers who refused to let society define them and pushed onward, but we all need to be extra cautious when exploring all this.

As one Twitter friend has said in multiple places, communication is key in any relationship, and ESPECIALLY important in non-traditional relationships (in her case, polygamous. I don't reference her because I haven't asked her if she wants to be mentioned in this thread or not).

And its so true.

But we have to start trying (or in the case of people already in poly and other non-traditional relationships, keep trying) otherwise we will keep ripping ourselves apart.

Frankly, I am surprised that more women haven't decided to choose not to be involved with men, in a variety of ways, so they can be safe not have to worry about alpha male bullshit.