Here's something about Korean, and by extension Korean-American, culture. We have not historically liked to talk about our trauma. If you speak about it, it's almost like inviting it back into your life.

That's why I've never once heard the full details about my halmeoni's experience during occupation and the Korean War. Even though I know just from the highlights how much she and her family suffered.

That's why I lived 30 some odd years before my mom finally told me the truth of how destitute she was and how many hardships she went through, even though if she had told me sooner, I would have had a better understanding and maybe tried harder to help support the family.

And that's why you don't hear Korean Americans talk about the LA riots. Especially if they actually lived through it. They'd rather just leave it behind and move on.

But that's a big part of why others have essentially written over their history and virtually gone unquestioned.

I, and perhaps some others in the younger generation of Kor-Ams, might change that one day. My family hugs one another all the time and say "Love you so much" - which is really unusual for Korean families too. I started that shit! So on this TL we r gonna talk about our feelings.