One of the characteristics of dealing with trauma is the repetitious nature of that work. Survivors will say the same things over and over. They will be repetitious in dealing with their emotions. They will repeat their losses again and again.

Expect it and learn to sit with it. The magnitude of the trauma is so great that repetition is necessary. The mind cannot imagine what happened. It cannot hold such a thought.

Bearing the intensity of emotions is impossible and so the feelings must be tried on again and again. Be patient and then be patient some more. Telling and re-telling helps to reduce the memory in size.