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Some musings on the NSFW community. Forgive me for being self indulgent and constantly talking my shit on this but its important to me.
Some musings on the NSFW community. Forgive me for being self indulgent and constantly talking my shit on this but its important to me.
I often vacilate between wanting to admonish the behavior of my contemporaries (and figures in the NSFW internet community as a whole) and trying to extend an olive branch to let them know I understand the fear that comes with our existence in our respective communities.
How our existence and importance in our respective communities is intrinsically tied to how the public looks upon us.
That's terrifying.
I also understand that that exact fear often informs the decisions/statements we make.
Or sometimes more importantly, the ones we don't.
That's terrifying.
I also understand that that exact fear often informs the decisions/statements we make.
Or sometimes more importantly, the ones we don't.
It's important to note that I have the privilege of being able to freely speak my mind; I often tend to in a very impassioned way.
While I like to think I had a hand in setting the tone of my own community,
I'm only afforded this privilege because of the generosity of others.
While I like to think I had a hand in setting the tone of my own community,
I'm only afforded this privilege because of the generosity of others.
I understand the fear and anxiety that comes with the territory.
Feeling tied to a community/app and being afraid of dissolving into nothingness if you leave.
Feeling like you're only one wrong move away from losing the support of the listeners you've worked so hard for.
Feeling tied to a community/app and being afraid of dissolving into nothingness if you leave.
Feeling like you're only one wrong move away from losing the support of the listeners you've worked so hard for.
The fear that if we open up and are honest about these feelings that we'll be perceived as weak or vapid.
I understand how these and many other fears can lead us to act defensively and selfishly.
Protective of our work and community that is tied to our own sense of self.
I understand how these and many other fears can lead us to act defensively and selfishly.
Protective of our work and community that is tied to our own sense of self.
All this to say, I understand.
I also understand that many folks don't even know that they're being driven by fear and a wanting to belong.
However, it's possible that they're not.
It's possible that people are greedy and driven by a need to control.
I also understand that many folks don't even know that they're being driven by fear and a wanting to belong.
However, it's possible that they're not.
It's possible that people are greedy and driven by a need to control.
But I don't think that should stop the pursuit of wanting better for ourselves and those around us.
We should leave space for forgiveness and understanding.
Enough to allow for the uncomfortable self reflection and honesty that is necessary for growth and redemption.
We should leave space for forgiveness and understanding.
Enough to allow for the uncomfortable self reflection and honesty that is necessary for growth and redemption.
I also understand how its easy to feel embittered about newcomers who seem to co-opt our culture for the sake of that delicious patreon money.
I understand because it makes me fucking furious.
But in an attempt to water the soil, I try to stay from indulging those feelings.
I understand because it makes me fucking furious.
But in an attempt to water the soil, I try to stay from indulging those feelings.
So what's my point?
If we care about our community, we need to start exercising the often painful act of empathy towards our peers.
It's important that we're critical of the actions, but allow room for the individual to grow and be better.
If we care about our community, we need to start exercising the often painful act of empathy towards our peers.
It's important that we're critical of the actions, but allow room for the individual to grow and be better.
Or something like that.
Thanks for letting me talk my shit.
Let's all be kinder to one another whilst upholding the honest critical eye that's needed for growth.
It's often uncomfortable to do so but that's not a good enough reason not to.
I'll try my best to do the same.
Thanks for letting me talk my shit.
Let's all be kinder to one another whilst upholding the honest critical eye that's needed for growth.
It's often uncomfortable to do so but that's not a good enough reason not to.
I'll try my best to do the same.
*quick addendum sorry*
This isn't a call to neutrality or to go easy on each other.
This is about being open and honest.
To show support by holding those accountable and in turn being compassionate in helping them to be better.
Wield both the sword and the shield.
This isn't a call to neutrality or to go easy on each other.
This is about being open and honest.
To show support by holding those accountable and in turn being compassionate in helping them to be better.
Wield both the sword and the shield.
