I'm tired of people who think not having any physical defiency makes you any better. I don't want to talk about what it is for me. But what do you gain by scrapping anyone's wounds with your questions? I say thankyou every day because understanding pain makes me a better person.

I say thank you every day for the most fuvked up things I encounter because they've taught me to only be kinder. But what do you gain from showering pity? What do you gain from asking about history? Sometimes it makes me wonder if that's the first thing you see.

I am a person beyond the ways you think I don't fit the standard. And fine you know what, I don't even bother anymore. I could happily educate you about everything because I'm not afraid of what you think are flaws. But it hurts me when you question parents about their kids.

Do you ever even think how hard it is on a parent to see their kids in any unusual situation? Do you ever think how many times they wish we could get better for ourselves? But you come around putting them down for having kids that don't fit the norms well.

I'm grown to be very comfortable with communicating about mine if we're close. But the way some of you think it's okay to dig family history. I'm sorry but you cross a line you should not. I'll ignore it but they're not for you to pity on. Let people be.

I've been trying to get this out of my head since yesterday but I simply can't. It keeps coming back to me so now I'm ranting and I might just delete this thread later. But this is why I hate being in public. You see my siblings and me together and the obvious commonality makes

you pity something you don't even know the details about. People need to learn to get their head out of other people's shit. She's already complexed enough that she chants 24*7 that in a desi society none of us will ever lead a normal family life and while I focus on pulling her

out of that, making her think it's okay to be different. The moment some random Tom Dick and Harry sees us, y'all walk around with your pity gazes and fake sympathies ruining even the few moments we breathe happily away from other stress. I don't understand why is it important

to YOU. At home she happily says I'm glad you never see such things as a problem despite the hindrances they can create and I really don't. But step out and you have a world to make you believe otherwise. Like auntie keep that pity in your pocket and walk away with your salaam.

Idek why I'm ranting but idk if you see any bit of this thread, just stop asking people about things you should not. If someone's hurt and needs you, be willing to talk. But do not guilt trip anyone with your queries. Sometimes people do not want to revisit reasons for pain.