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HEY RUBY KINNIES IT’S YOUR TURN
You don’t feel comfortable expressing negative emotions. You’re a people pleaser. You know that people always work better when they’re in a good mood. If other people are being negative you want to lift them up. If others are feeling happy then you don’t want to kill the mood.
So you smile a lot. You smile when people ask you if you’re okay - whether you are or not. But please understand, you don’t always have to be the one smiling. I know that you feel like you have to cheer everyone up, to motivate them, and while that’s a good thing to aspire to-
- it doesn’t always have to be you. I don’t know how much I can emphasize that.
You’re very observant. You pick up on the little things that people do. You base your reactions to a situation off of how others are reacting. If they’re angry, you’ll stay calm, regardless of how you feel inside.
When it comes to negative emotions you’re always feeling more than you choose to show.
You want to be free. Sometimes you wish you could go off and live in isolation where your actions don’t affect others and you can do whatever you want and you feel guilty for feeling that.
Sometimes you feel like you don’t fit in among the people who love you. You’ll distance yourself from them because of this and either try to think things through on your own or distract yourself.
A lot of times even when you’re in a group of close friends you’ll still feel awkward and isolate yourself. You’ll do this quietly so they don’t notice.
You know how to manipulate conversations and you do it a lot to avoid talking about your own doubts or emotions. Stop changing the subject when people are concerned about you. The fact that they noticed something is off isn’t a failure on your part.
I don’t know how else to say it but people genuinely asking if you’re okay doesn’t mean that you’ve failed at keeping spirits up. You are allowed to have people who care about you, and it’s a good thing.
You’re burdened by your responsibilities. They overwhelm you sometimes and you shut off because of it. You don’t tell other people about this.
You are so scared of letting people down. If you feel like you might then you’ll distance yourself so they don’t realize that something’s off.
First things first, I need you to realize that you are loved. People care about you so much. They won’t stop caring about you if you fail every now and then - they didn’t start to love you just because of what you can do and the things you accomplish
People love you because of who you are. Second of all, it’s okay to fail and to make mistakes every now and then. You are a human being, not a paragon.
You work so hard to improve yourself and to be good and to be better, but every now and then you need to take a moment to stop. Take a break.
You’re really protective of the people you care about and of people in general. You hate seeing other people get hurt. But you still let yourself get hurt a lot and brush it off.
Please stop brushing it off; your pain is so valid. You always try your best but if bad things happen anyway I need you to know that it’s not your fault.
You idolize certain people and it hurts you a lot when you see them make mistakes. You try to help them then, but their behavior is not a reflection of you. You aren’t obligated to make sure they improve.
You go out of your way to help people, sometimes putting yourself (physically in ruby’s case, probably mentally for y’all) at risk. You’re full of so much life but you have the tendency to stretch it thin.
You are so ready to explode sometimes and you wish you could let it out but you’re scared. You’re scared of what others will think and you’re scared of what you might do. So instead you choose to compress the feeling into a ball inside your gut and hope it fades away.
You can’t always shut off your emotions and go into working mode. They will come back. You are allowed to get angry. You are allowed to feel sad. You’re allowed to be scared.
You’re allowed to feel whatever negative emotion bubbles up. Let it happen. Let it flow through you instead of putting it on the backburner.
You find joy in the simple, smallest things in life but sometimes you turn away from your own joy to help others. But you’re allowed to have fun. You’re allowed to be happy. You’re allowed to just relax and to just breathe.
im really sorry for the next one
Your way of coping is through self-deprecating jokes, nihilistic jokes, or just generally distracting yourself from the things that are bothering you. That’s how you keep yourself sane.
I’ve gotta say, it’s probably gonna be a lot healthier if you talk to your friends. They trust you. You can trust them.
You feel like you don’t deserve the trust that people put in you.
People praise you a lot and you feel like you don’t deserve it so you always work twice as hard so you don’t let them down.
You always, always, get back up. Without rest. You adapt to change quickly but it still affects you - not that you let people know that.
You see a problem that you think you can solve and you jump to fix it on your own. It doesn’t matter if other people can help or not - you don’t want to involve them in anything that they don’t have to be involved in.
You suck at asking teachers for help. You know that they’re available and willing to help you but you either don’t want to bother them, don’t want to make yourself seem incapable, or both.
You have a distinct understanding of how people work and how they tick but don’t apply those principles to yourself. You’re the one person that you don’t want to figure out because you’re afraid of what you’ll find.
okay that& #39;s all i have so far but i might add more if i think of them
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adding another one: whenever you do actually express that you feel angry people might not take you fully seriously because they& #39;re so used to you just vibing
another: you hate crying in front of other people. it makes you feel weak and like you’re not fulfilling the expectations people have of you. if they’re concerned for you then you feel even worse. crying doesn’t make you weak, it’s a part of being human.
also you& #39;re good at lying or at the very least hiding/omitting truths
