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1) In my personal and working life I've seen/heard people getting frustrated with people with "bpd" diagnosis. I just wanted to speak for a moment about this as it's something still worth talking about.

2) I would often seek help from many people or services and get support from them. However even if I had started to feel better when talking to someone, when I hung the phone up or left the session I would self harm, often needing to go to A&E afterwards.

3) People would be frustrated with me and not understand why the support they had given me wasn't enough to keep me safe, why I wasn't helping myself. This in turn sometimes led to callous, harmful treatment as a repeat attender at A&E.

4) I would be classed as a "pd" and no longer seen as a person who was greatly struggling. I would be told to take responsibility and stop using services meant for people who really needed them.

5) The truth was that I had been abused for years and was so distressed and unable to process and vocalise what had happened. I would desperately need care but as soon that person hung up the phone or left I would be overwhelmed with the feeling of being alone and worthless.

6) I didn't know how to feel safe or heard, I hadn't had a life where I could learn these skills. My chaotic behavior was showing this, if only people would have stopped for a moment to have noticed.

7) So if you're working with someone who you feel frustrated by, please stop for a minute and think about what has happened to this person to lead them to where they are now. We know all behaviour is communication, what are they communicating, what are they needing?

You can't provide everything a person needs but sustained empathy and care over the time you have with them can make a difference.Treating a person with a lack of care, compassion and understanding will never help someone to find a sense of care and compassion for themselves