MY WIFE IS A TRUE FEMINIST. For men who always want to use #money as a yardstick to determine if women are Feminists or not, I think they are getting it wrong in my humble opinion.

A THREAD...

I hav been married for about 10 years. My wife used to work too but she lost that job two years into our marriage. Ever since, she has never worked for anyone else but for me & our children. This was purely her choice. I didn't like the idea, I complained but I think I was naive.

Almost 8 years after, and with the entire working at home ish as a result of covid 19, I have come to fully understand why a man must never broke shame any woman, especially his wife. Let's leave single ladies out of it for now. Those ones, for me, are still learners.

While I sit behind my computer trying to tackle my daily tasks and ensure I get the finances to meet up to our responsibilities, she is busy every now and then trying to fix our home. She knows what I earn. I mean, every penny and she plans with it and never asks for...

... What I cannot provide for her or the kids. Despite being the one going out to work and get the finances, she is often times, the one who sleeps last and wakes up first. When I am out of the home for days, my mind is always at peace because I know I have a woman...

... Who is taking care of things as they should be. My wife is the teacher of my children. She prepares lesson notes for them and makes sure she looks into what these kinds are being taught in school. I occasionally help her donsame too, but if it was left to me...

My kids will be OLODOS. She insisted that we would not have any house helps to save us extra monies. When I earn my salary, she gets all the chunks first, then savings, then me for occasional drinks at bars for both of us and outings for the family.

I come back home and I see a woman who has done so much in the day and I see my children looking healthy, happy to see their father and the home looking well kept and neat. I have tried to quantify in monetary terms, all she does for us and I can say for free, that I can't afford

To pay for those even if I wanted to. All that, will not be possible, if I had a woman who just wants to be a wife and compete with me over what is not necessary. She found her strength and I have supported her all the way. She has also supported my dreams & goals too.

Though she has no penny of her own, but everything penny I have belongs to her. I have made sure of that. And she is also doing other things on the sidelines to plan to make money of her own when she feels the home can be on "auto-run". I have also made sure of that.

So to men, who is the true Feminist? The one who identifies her strength and gives it her all, committing to making sure that the marriage works and focusing on you and helping your own dream to be achieved? Or the one who continues to shout, "I'M A FEMINIST" but not ready to....

... put in the work? There are women who don't even identify as Feminists in the real sense but they still do all the things my wife does to the best of their abilities and still contribute financially as much as they can. Before you shame any married woman for being broke,

Think about what she does without having money and what you can do, as a man without having money. The difference is crystal clear. I am what I am am today because of my wife. Put simply, I'm useless as a man without her. I'm sure significant number of married men feel the same.

All these cries for equality is just unnecessary cacophony. Needless and baseless. If you respect and care for women, they'll not be crying for equal recognition in the first place or be shouting FEMINISM all over the place. It's even annoying to see all these...

... Never married women or bitterly divorced or heartbroken women make being a fenmists look like our own women in the house are useless or slaves to men because of the choices they made. The choice to sacrifice her own growth for the growth of her children...

... And the pursuit to make a better society for all. Yes, because these women bring up the children and teach them morals and protect them in their vulnerable ages. If you meet a lady who is financially independent and she decides to stop working after she gets married to you,..

Leave her to make that choice herself. Except you are ready to pay for all that which she plans to do for you while not working. In which case, I think is unquantifiable. Let her decide when she's comfortable enough to start working again or doing something on the sidelines..

To bring in the much she can. She's a true Feminists. The real woman you married. The one who sees far ahead of you but you're too proud and arrogant to see that. What you should give her is hope and what she needs to give you is support and encouragement.

Judge your wife (if you may), through your children (if you're blessed to have them) and not through her pocket. So that even if the marriage doesn't work, (as not all marriages may not work), you'll still not hate her and make her bitter even in divorce.

Let the social media noise makers talk about feminism all they like. Experience, they say is that best teacher.

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