Some girls never been in love before so I could understand their desire to want that in their 20s. I won’t be the one to shame you. However.....be these niggas friends man.

Many times, you won’t even want a man more than you just want him to want you. You seen the red flags that are absolutely beneath you but you just want the nigga to want you more than you expressed wanting him. It ain’t even him. He not even lit. Sis, just coast and enjoy dates.

To want to experience real love or what you think a relationship is, is fair. I didn’t want or aspire to marriage in my early/mid 20s however I absolutely wanted to feel more than what I was feeling, not realizing that I was absolutely settling.

I tell y’all all the time once I decided against it, I was done. I stopped giving a shit about men returning energy because I had none for them. I started getting shit off my chest and ending situations and cutting remaining ties because I was truly better than that.

I was better than any man I dated and that’s a fact. Not some shit I say to make myself feel good, not some arrogant way of licking my wounds, it’s an actual fact. No matter what accolades they carried, I was the better human being. I would’ve been doing myself a disservice.

It even took my good sis @YaBoyfriendsBFF telling me “bitch you going places anyway, are these niggas even built for the life you plan to live?” That shit ended any remaining desire I thought I had for anyone. I chose me. Fully. Truly. Wholly. Shamelessly. 100%, not 96% anymore.