I keep running into a few - a very few - transfemme people who get upset when transmasc people talk about our struggles. Not just if we derail - if we talk about our stuff at all.

I am also scared in public bathrooms y& #39;all.

Anyway, I& #39;m trying to figure out how to respond.

I don& #39;t want to further divide us. I don& #39;t want to be silenced. I don& #39;t want to defend myself by pointing out that I spend a ton of time supporting trans women.

I do want to be able to talk about the things that are hard for me - for us.

I don& #39;t want my response to hurt others.

This is a bullshit argument. My oppression doesn& #39;t take away from anyone& #39;s.

I just don& #39;t know how to respond when told I& #39;m not allowed to talk about it because I& #39;m taking space from trans women.

It& #39;s my life? I will also talk about other lives, other experiences?

But yeah.

Mainly I want a way to redirect the people who are probably hurting and just aiming very badly, but I can& #39;t find a way to get through.

We end up pretty segregated as a result, which I also don& #39;t love.

Has anyone gotten through to any of them?

Oh! When it happens in reverse if I don& #39;t see it tag me in and I& #39;ll take care of it

I don& #39;t have a problem telling transmasc younguns to sit down and listen to me. They don& #39;t always listen but I know how to have that conversation.