I keep running into a few - a very few - transfemme people who get upset when transmasc people talk about our struggles. Not just if we derail - if we talk about our stuff at all.

I am also scared in public bathrooms y'all.

Anyway, I'm trying to figure out how to respond.

I don't want to further divide us. I don't want to be silenced. I don't want to defend myself by pointing out that I spend a ton of time supporting trans women.

I do want to be able to talk about the things that are hard for me - for us.

I don't want my response to hurt others.

This is a bullshit argument. My oppression doesn't take away from anyone's.

I just don't know how to respond when told I'm not allowed to talk about it because I'm taking space from trans women.

It's my life? I will also talk about other lives, other experiences?

But yeah.

Mainly I want a way to redirect the people who are probably hurting and just aiming very badly, but I can't find a way to get through.

We end up pretty segregated as a result, which I also don't love.

Has anyone gotten through to any of them?

Oh! When it happens in reverse if I don't see it tag me in and I'll take care of it

I don't have a problem telling transmasc younguns to sit down and listen to me. They don't always listen but I know how to have that conversation.