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Dating as an adult - when you work and have responsibilities - is not no up under you 24/7 shit. Your time is already assigned to other shit. Y’all doing 1 date a week if that, can’t talk all day and probably tired as hell when you get home. Y’all not gonna be in love in 3 days
It’s really and truly hard to connect off of pointless gm and wyd texts. The effort and intention have to be on 100 to make up for the time you aren’t seeing each other. Meaningful conversation, thoughtful gestures, and dates that help y’all experience each other are a must
So I personally don’t understand why y’all always trying to rush someone for “reciprocation” or say I’m only putting x amount of effort in as if it doesn’t take time to CONFIRM you really want to fw someone. When you’re GROWN the energy needs to be even more intentional to matter
Every interaction y’all have is a trial to see if the person moves how you like and communicates well and would be a good partner for you. How can you put a time frame on that? And how can you demand they do xyz for you in a certain amount of time if y’all don’t know each other?
Moral of the story is, especially if you’re the one who initiated pursuit, make sure you’re READY to put in that work and effort because honestly even linking up is probably taking away time from something else important. Use it strategically and bc you REALLY want the person
And liking someone doesn’t mean y’all are COMPATIBLE and should hop into a relationship. Interest ≠effort. Interest will grow NATURALLY over time if things are going right, but it’s still all a TRIAL run to see what’s up, not hop into a bad relationship as quickly as you can
If you cannot understand this, it’s probably best we don’t speak
If y’all don’t know what dating is just say that. Dating is the getting to know someone stage, to determine if you like them, y’all are compatible and if they’d be a good partner. It is not being in a relationship, where you’ve already created space in your life for the person
