I think the unspoken reason why a lot of christians would prefer gay people to say "I have same sex attraction" rather than "I& #39;m gay" is that saying "I& #39;m gay" tends to imply gayness as a stable feature of someone& #39;s personality --

Whereas "I have same sex attraction" tends to quietly imply an addendum: "...until I am healed of it"

But many Christians don& #39;t want to say this outright, which is why they instead argue, "saying & #39;I am [x]& #39; is the same as reducing oneself to [x]& #39;"

This argument is easily identifiable as nonsense for any other adjective besides "gay"

I& #39;d honestly rather people consider homosexuality an unhealable disability than consider it something that one can mature out of

(I& #39;m not saying I do consider homosexuality to be a disability, but I& #39;m also not saying what I do consider it to be, because I don& #39;t know)