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I& #39;m sorry to bring this to the timeline, and I was not going to say anything here originally, but its my main coping space so I feel like I have to talk about it here to remind myself I& #39;m the sane one.
TW. Child abuse
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Suffice to say, my Granddad has been reliably accused of being a child abuser. It& #39;s known. Multiple people over time. The family knows this, I know this. No one has ever brought official charges so I can& #39;t say & #39;he is& #39;, but its known.
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Suffice to say, my Granddad has been reliably accused of being a child abuser. It& #39;s known. Multiple people over time. The family knows this, I know this. No one has ever brought official charges so I can& #39;t say & #39;he is& #39;, but its known.
Parts of my family (being the & #39;good& #39; Christians that they are) refuse to stop seeing our interacting with him, refuse to stand up to him, and basically have always bowed to him.
I, on the other hand, told him EXACTLY what I thought of him (gave him the right of reply, which he did not use) and would have nothing to do with him, and if I even saw him online I& #39;d comment & #39;jail& #39; underneath. My comment would be swiftly deleted, of course.
Also, I& #39;m gay, and they don& #39;t like gays, BUT, I& #39;ve never told them I won& #39;t see them for that reason. I was never rude to them about it.
My parents, on the other hand, I won& #39;t see until they apologise for comparing my relationship to f**king a dog. That& #39;s all, apologise for that.
My parents, on the other hand, I won& #39;t see until they apologise for comparing my relationship to f**king a dog. That& #39;s all, apologise for that.
TW. Death
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Sadly, my grandma passed away last week, which is always a loss - though as a Christian, I anticipate seeing her again in perfection. Loss of any life is precious, however. I lit a candle, I thought about our best moments, I thanked God for her, bought flowers
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Sadly, my grandma passed away last week, which is always a loss - though as a Christian, I anticipate seeing her again in perfection. Loss of any life is precious, however. I lit a candle, I thought about our best moments, I thanked God for her, bought flowers
I was polite and kind to my parents, of course.
When I received the message that Grandma had apparently requested the to be no funeral because of family breakdown, fighting, etc, I was saddened not for anyone& #39;s sake but her daughters, my aunts.
When I received the message that Grandma had apparently requested the to be no funeral because of family breakdown, fighting, etc, I was saddened not for anyone& #39;s sake but her daughters, my aunts.
Lovely, funny, carefree souls, they keep to themselves and have had remarkably drama free existence. I& #39;ve made an effort to stay in touch with them, especially as my parents often made them feel like the black sheep of the family, etc. So I would visit when in the area.
I last spoke to my aunt mid-pandemic, to see how she was getting on during lockdown.
I messaged my condolences, and my favourite memory of Grandma from life (and had also messaged when I heard Grandma had fallen ill).
Today, I received a reply suddenly and forcefully, where she told me:
Grandma died of a broken heart,
That my aunt had treated me and Pete with respect,
That she hoped I could do the same for her Mother,
And that I should NEVER contact her again.
Grandma died of a broken heart,
That my aunt had treated me and Pete with respect,
That she hoped I could do the same for her Mother,
And that I should NEVER contact her again.
She said that Grandma who had done so much fur her family, no longer wanted to live.
I don& #39;t know what to do, say, think.
I can only assume something horribly untrue has been said about me?
I will be unpicking this text message for YEARS if I don& #39;t get to the bottom of it.
Actually I do remember a thing I had with my Granddad where he told me I would never be welcome in his house because of a Bible verse about not mixing with sinners??? But I told him. (I think!) he was always welcome on mine (before I knew about the abuse) https://twitter.com/MattDrapps/status/1320108868693905418?s=19">https://twitter.com/MattDrapp...
Here& #39;s me and Pete up that hill.
Con& #39;t
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After those messages, I simply did not reignite conversation, and neither did they. They didn& #39;t want to hear anything, and I didn& #39;t particularly want to hear from them. When I heard Grandma was ill once, I wrote this:
And at another time I sent a full-fury email to Granddad (certainly NOT Grandma) after I had heard the abuse accusations against Granddad (and I gave him one chance to deny the accusation, which he did not.)
So how DARE someone accuse me of breaking my Grandma& #39;s heart and causing her to die. How DARE they.
I realise the emails I& #39;ve posted have his name in them, but really with a little research anyone could have found that out anyway, so I& #39;m not going back to edit them all.
I also omitted one message (to him, not her) in which I asked why I was banned from his house and not my aunt for & #39;reasons& #39;. I haven& #39;t shared that message here because it sounds like I& #39;m shaming the & #39;reasons& #39; but i am not. Only the hypocrisy.
Also, fuck this whole thread.
Also, this thread should link to my #exposechristiandiscipline and #exposechristianabuse threads because they are relevant.
