i really hate the idea that dealing with peoples mental disorders is something that should be ‘repaid’ in a relationship. if someone was physically disabled would you tell them that they ‘owed you’ because they helped push your wheel chair?? no of course not

this is something pretty common amongst neurotypicals who just dont understand that some people need different care and that even when they do, it doesnt mean theres something wrong with them.

ill use my ocd as an example bc i find personal comparisons easiest for me to convey my opinions with. with my ocd, i have rituals. a lot of them. i hate them and they suck.

of course it would be exhausting for someone else to comply with ALL of them, but thats not the point of a relationship and thats not the point of me trying to overcome my own mind.

your partner or friend or family member shldnt enable you — they should respect your boundaries and push them when necessary and at a safe pace. of course this can get tiring, but it is for both parties. not just one.

this is actually pretty hard to talk abt bc im nowhere near the stage where i can see myself as anything except a burden, but im working on it and i think having this conversation w myself is important. i struggle very hard w interpersonal relationships (if that isnt obvious lol)

i dont really see relationships, romantic platonic or familial, as very important. i have my own trauma that im still dealing with. but i also can say objectively, that my disorders dont make me a fucking burden.

and i dont owe anyone anything when they do something they know will ease my anxiety. i dont owe anyone anything for respecting my boundaries bc theyre MY boundaries they come with ME. EVERYONE has boundaries that deserve to be respected, mentally ill or not.

obviously this thread does not account for toxic relationships where someones mental illness, unchecked or otherwise, spirals out of control and becomes detrimental to both parties. this is about people seeing mental illness as a burden, as something that needs to be ‘handled’

mental health never needs to be ‘handled’, it needs to be ‘addressed’. if you find yourself slogging through a relationship with the ‘damn... this shit again’ mindset, either get the fuck out of that relationship for both of your sanities, or fix your own perspective

anyways stan atsumu im tired and its only 10 am i hate personal growth its exhausting