#Hindsight #Relationshipping

The things I did for "love" 🙃

One day I was late and I missed the last taxi from Springs to Secunda so #SerialCheater had to drive and fetch me

The "safest" place for me to wait was outside a tavern near the taxi rank

I went and I sat there
A very very drunk man came to ask me what I was doing there so late with a bag and so on

I told him the whole story with tears in my eyes

That man told me how dangerous that place was at night and how rubbish #SerialCheater was for making me catch taxis to Secunda
Then he told me that he'd wait with me until #SerialCheater arrived

He did just that. He sat outside the tavern with me for over an hour to make sure that I was safe
When #SerialCheater and his friend eventually arrived, I asked them to pay this guy. They didn't want to

Long story short, I forced them to

I was so heartbroken that day

Heartbroken by the amount of effort and pain and and and that this relationship took

It was a lot
After #SerialCheater dumped me and moved on with his life, I was shattered

It was two years of #HeartbreakHotel and what I now recognise as clinical depression

My closest friends were so relieved. They were relieved that this nightmare of a "relationship" was finally over.
And you know what? I was relieved too

I could handle heartbreak

But I couldn't handle the worrying and sleepless nights wondering if he was really at home or eMbalenhle with uZama

I knew that there was a steady someone else #SerialCheater was seeing

I always found evidence
I'm glad that those things happened to me, that I survived the mess, and that I'm here today

I share these stories with people in messy relationships to show them that love should not hurt in that way

Not at all
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