FYI, “persecuted autism parents”, here is what is actually happening here on #actuallyautistic twitter: (thread)
1. Autism parent says something dehumanizing or awful or just plain *wrong* about autistic people. Not necessarily on purpose.

2) Autistic adults jump in to correct it. Look, for whatever reason we are *programmed* to Fix things and comment on falsehoods. Seriously. It’s what we do. That and stimming.

3) This stuff often relates DIRECTLY to trauma in our past (or present). So sometimes one of us will get really upset and have trouble regulating emotion. They go into “meltdown”. Remember, this is an autistic person. We aren’t always great at regulating emotion.

4) autism parent feels bullied and attacked. Perhaps due to their own triggers. But here’s the thing. Autistic meltdown is NOT bullying. It’s purely defensive. But when you keep winding that person up they get more and more upset.

In fact, stoking a meltdown is bullying. If you’re actually an autism parent is this that hard to understand? Haven’t you seen your kid get that way? This isn’t a neurotypical person harassing you for fun. It’s someone in distress who is very similar to your loved one.

5) autism parent keeps pushing. Autistic adult goes into burnout or survival mode and stops engaging. Is upset irl. Other autistic adults see this and experience hyper empathy so try to help. Autism parent pushes on them too.

6) eventually autism parent gets overwhelmed and cries out that they are a bullied victim. The autistic adults are “murder hornets”. And in a way it’s true. We are a bee colony doing our thing. You come kick us despite knowing what will get happen. You whine when you get stung.

7) neurotypical people are supposedly good at social stuff right? So they must know this and do it for fun? Or else to blow off steam? But here’s the thing. We are less like hornets than honeybees. If we “sting” you it causes you discomfort and totally wrecks us.

I have a hard time believing it’s a good faith disagreement. If it really is, please stop and THINK about it rather than pretending the person isn’t autistic or w/e. If you’re doing it on purpose, you look really silly whining about the bee stings when you’re still throwing rocks