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[From a DNF book. Title at the end of the thread.]
Hero, talking about his ex fiancé: "Why marry a woman who couldn't get wet? [...] He'd had to invest in lubricant for the first time in his life."
YIKES. Let's talk about how this is a big ol' NOPE in so many ways.
Hero, talking about his ex fiancé: "Why marry a woman who couldn't get wet? [...] He'd had to invest in lubricant for the first time in his life."
YIKES. Let's talk about how this is a big ol' NOPE in so many ways.
First of all, this is very transphobic (transmisogyny) as it implies that one shouldn't marry/fuck a trans woman because they "can't get wet".
I shouldn't have to explain why this is a problem????
I shouldn't have to explain why this is a problem????
Second, even if this was, SOMEHOW worded in a way that was NOT transphobic, it's still a shitty thing to say about cis women and people who were born with a vagina.
Lots of things can alter vaginal wetness, including hormones, medical problems, and side effects from medication.
AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS! IT IS NOT THE VAGINA OWNER'S FAULT!
AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS! IT IS NOT THE VAGINA OWNER'S FAULT!
Also: there can be a difference between a person being or feeling aroused and their body actually showing this physical sign of arousal.
Emily talks more about arousal nonconcordance in COME AS YOU ARE, which is a great book https://amzn.to/2TifnFZ
Emily talks more about arousal nonconcordance in COME AS YOU ARE, which is a great book https://amzn.to/2TifnFZ
And finally: can we please stop acting like lube is this dirty secret, regardless of a person's genitals or who they are partnered with? Because lube is EXCELLENT, yes even for a "healthy" cis woman fucking a cis man!
LUBE FOR ALL, THANKS FOR COMING TO MY TED TALK.
LUBE FOR ALL, THANKS FOR COMING TO MY TED TALK.
The original quote was from A Little Harmless Sex, which I shared in a recent deals thread. The minute I hit that line, not even a few pages in to the book, I practically threw my Kindle at the wall. Not today, Satan, not today. https://amzn.to/3dSEwRp
