A brief on relationships between singles and married/booed up:

Can I say that it is very hard to make meaningful friendships work between those who are single and those are married/have partners? I often don’t speak on it because of not wanting to get labeled a certain way

However, I think adults can talk about this. From *my observations* I have seen wonderful and horrible relationships...so let’s get into what doesn’t work *in my opinion*

1. Everyone is busy. Truly
2. Sometimes it’s my observation that when married people get caught up in their lives (spouses, children stuff, house stuff, bills, etc) they get into a routine and whenever they come out of it they assume their single friend should have time..

3. When single people are busy or maybe are distant from lack of care...breakdowns in intimacy and communication rupture...things get said or left unsaid and friendships breakdown

4. Sometimes there is an incredulous nature within the married friend “don’t you know I’m *married* and i am making time for you?!” The unspoken thoughts are that the single person should be happy for whatever love and attention they get...

Marriage, at least in the church, is seen as the highest relationship one could have. All other relationships can be sacrificed on the altar of making that one relationship happy. Sometimes/oftentimes what can happen is it’s hard to form bonds with people who see you as...

Expendable?...not worthy???...

Now we have come to the crux of it: Relationships can’t be relationships when someone holds all of the power. These tweets aren’t knocks on married people or people who are in long partnerships. They are mere observations.

This isn’t a cry for help or a subtweet. Also...please don’t use this as a subtext to tell me the million times you’ve seen it done well. I know it can be. I also know single people can be selfish. (Me) lol

I want people to know that single people are people too. Not to be pitied. Not to be pampered...just people.

Whew I am thinking about the times where married friends haven’t had time until they suddenly had trouble in paradise and thennnnn were mad mad that I had other things to do?

Eww after handcrafting these tweets I shuddered knowing someone is going to look past them and think of the two verses on marriage to justify some of their trash behavior towards their friends. Hate it here