Okay. This is half headcanon, half critique & has probably been said better by someone else but I have Opinions so here we are.

I won’t argue but I’m happy to discuss. If you seriously disagree with me please just unfollow/don’t yell at me in the replies, for both our sakes.

I left the reply settings as is bc I don’t think this is going to piss anyone off terribly—but if it does, I don’t want to deal

I just really dislike the way that M’s possessiveness gets mapped as a hyper-masculine trait associated with ownership that then leads into all of the aggressive dom!characterizations of him.

Bc that just exacerbates how MG’s age difference results in a power differential instead of subverting it which is frustrating from the perspective of healthy relationships being between equals.

I think it makes far more sense for M’s possessiveness to be a function of his insecurity and need to care. Especially because they exist within the public eye and that kind of standard of possessiveness is great for plausible deniability

Also I feel like defaulting to characterizing M as aggressively masculine has resulted in a characterization of G that feminizes/infantilizes him to an alarming degree.

I recognize that with G, it is a function of the public persona he has semi-actively constructed for himself due to TTTS but it makes me so uncomfortable because it’s taken to a point where he’s stripped of his agency.

I also recognize that this only addresses one factor that plays into the way that they’re viewed (the dichotomy between M’s possessiveness and G being “the cute one”) but it’s the one that is easiest to identify, and hence the one I’ve chosen to harp on.

Also like. I regularly call celebs I stan “my bby” and thirst over them on main and what not, but it tips into places that are really reductive with MG, especially in regards to their relationship, and that’s where my frustration lies

At the end of the day though. I have no right to police what is said/written/thought about their dynamic because frankly, all of us know jackshit about the reality either way

But this is what I have to say about it, so do with it what you will