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Introduction to persecutors in DID / OSDD systems and how to properly react to/"handle" them.
TW for mentions of abuse throughout the entire thread.
TW for mentions of abuse throughout the entire thread.
DISCLAIMER
1. I& #39;m quoting a couple different systems
2. Every persecutor is different and behaves in a way that was necessary for their specific circumstances.
Obviously, there& #39;s exceptions to trends. I/the people quoted are just speaking from personal experiences.
1. I& #39;m quoting a couple different systems
2. Every persecutor is different and behaves in a way that was necessary for their specific circumstances.
Obviously, there& #39;s exceptions to trends. I/the people quoted are just speaking from personal experiences.
Persecutor alters are protectors with misguided means of protecting the system, whether they know it or not, and they usually hold internalized beliefs taken from abuse and use said beliefs to protect the system by either appeasing or scaring away abusers (depending on how- 1/11
- they Do Their Thing) which usually manifests in self-harming behaviors, seeking out retraumatization, or scaring people who they find dangerous away.
Also do not take it personally if they refuse help, as they probably will. 2/11
Also do not take it personally if they refuse help, as they probably will. 2/11
they pretty much constantly live like they& #39;re still in the abuse, and if their real life environment doesn& #39;t match with that then the alarm bells start going off and they start using those protective-against-abuse measures in places where it isn& #39;t appropriate so like yeah- 3/11
- it& #39;s ok if you personally can& #39;t handle interacting with a persecutor or feel hurt by something they& #39;ve done but they 100% don& #39;t do what they do to be an asshole and in reality they genuinely think what they& #39;re doing is the right thing to do. 4/11
Persecutors are at their core, protectors with misguided and warped perceptions towards how to protect the system. While their behavior should not be excused, the most productive way to handle misbehavior is with sympathy and understanding. Even when a persecutor acts in an- 5/11
-unacceptable way, understand it comes from a place of wanting to protect the system. There& #39;s always a reason that persecutors form, and while their behavior shouldn& #39;t be condoned, it& #39;s important to be kind and understanding to them to help in the healing process. 6/11
Again no one is obliged to interact with a persecutor or forgive them if they hurt people, but being combative or rude back to them is super counterproductive due to the nature of their being and how they are formed in the first place. 7/11
i think it would depend on the individual persecutor but in interacting with them, re: not being combative or rude back to them. if they see traits of what caused the trauma in you, it& #39;s inherently going to cause problems with how they interact with you. 8/11
also it& #39;s common for persecutors to deal with self-blame and guilt on top of the mounds of pain they& #39;re already going through so it& #39;s best not to add fuel to that fire if you can 9/11
SELF-HARM MENTION TW //
ALSO it& #39;s important to keep in mind that at the end of the day persecutors are still a part of the whole and you gotta treat them like you do your friends who self-harm or engage in self-destructive behaviors. 10/11
ALSO it& #39;s important to keep in mind that at the end of the day persecutors are still a part of the whole and you gotta treat them like you do your friends who self-harm or engage in self-destructive behaviors. 10/11
