Your EGO is not the enemy

It is an unwieldy warrior that needs discipline from its commander

7 tips on how to control your Ego

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1. Stop getting offended

The behavior of others isn't a reason to get upset

If you let things offend you it only weakens your energy

As Christopher Hitchens says, "Those who are determined to be 'offended' will discover a provocation somewhere."

Your ego is working to convince you that the world should be how you want it to be; this is stupid

Please stop it

2. You don't need to win all the time

Your ego loves to divide the world into winners and losers, but this is not true

Because ultimately, winning is impossible all the time

Someone out there right now is faster, younger, healthier, and smarter than you...

Does that make you a loser?

Of course not

So don't let your ego make you feel worthless or insignificant

Because you are not

Let go of needing to win by not agreeing that the opposite of winning is losing

That is your ego's fear, not yours

3. You are not right all the time

Your ego is the source of a lot of conflict and disagreement

Because it wants you to be right, making other people wrong

Letting go of your need to be right is very powerful

Even letting people win, even when you know they are wrong...

Is it a big issue? Will it matter in 5 mins? No

Then back down and move on

If you are open to being wrong sometimes

You can flex your humility and grow; your ego no longer blocks your path

You save yourself so much energy and can focus on more important things

4. Don't be superior

Authentic leadership isn't about being better than someone else

It's about being better than YOU used to be

Stay focused on your growth, be humble, and help others

With success, your ego will want to tell you that you are better than everyone...

While you might be more successful than others, there is no need to start acting like a dick

Empathy >>>>> Ego

5. Know when to stop

The ego is never satisfied

No matter how much you achieve or acquire, your ego will want more

You'll find yourself in a perpetual state of striving and reaching for a new end-goal

Making it so you never truly arrive at any of your goals...

The thing is, you've already arrived and succeeded

When you detach from the need for the goal

You may even find it easier to get to

Also, you become more grateful because you realize how little you need to be satisfied in life

6. You are not your reputation or achievements

Hear me out; it is impressive to have accomplishments and it is important

But be grateful for them

The less you need to take credit for your accomplishments or have people recognize them

The more you are free to achieve in life..

When your ego attaches who you are to those achievements

And you believe your own hype

People might not want to work with you again

You also start to build a bias towards your way based on past experiences

Be open, be cool, be helpful

7. Let go of control

The ego wants to control and micromanage everything

As my good friend Epictetus tells me

"There is only one way to happiness, and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power or our will."

It helps if you regularly remind yourself and your ego of what is in your control and what is not

It sounds simple, but it is not easy

Your ego will always want to come 1st

You have to control it and become its commander to succeed in life.