signs of an emotionally abusive, manipulative person as I've experienced it (because sometimes the sweetest sounding person can turn out to be the worst kind of friend and you don't realise it bc they have a way of presenting themselves like a helpless, sweet summer child):

- they tell you they are owed your time, energy & support
- they overreact and lash out when you try to impose boundaries and make you feel guilty
- they minimise your own feelings "you're exaggerating", "you blew this out of proportion"
- they never admit to their own fault and

often turn things around and dump the blame on you and everyone else but themselves
- their feelings take priority in the rs and yours are often talked about in the conditional. "you may be feeling this way but I..."
- they want attention constantly and want to be your friend but

they don't put the same kind of effort in the rs and often completely disregard your own stories
- they isolate you and make you feel bad for having other friends
- they often override your limits and pretend they forgot that you asked them to respect those limits.

- they seek public sympathy constantly and give just enough of the truth so that you can't properly defend yourself.
- they keep evidence of your mistakes and private conversations and use them as bargain.
- they string along your pain so that theirs feels more real & justified

- they minimise or dismiss completely any kindness or acts of love you've shown them and often use the few times they acted nicely to guilt trip you into giving even more of yourself
- they never ever admit to any fault and categorically refuse to even entertain the the thought

please take care of yourself and reach out if you need help! i'm ready to offer comfort and help for anyone in need. and @ the ppl outside of that rs, instead of blindly offering support to someone just bc they your friend, please be aware of these signs.

dont feel bad for feeling this way. dont feel guilty for "letting people down". dont let ppl shame you into accepting disrespect & mistreatment. you are worthy of ppl who love you in a healthy way, the way you deserve to be loved. not just for your time and support but for you!