So you guys do all these things with your "besties" but are still shocked when this invokes insecurity in your partners? Le phela maphelo a makatsang. This isn't even about sharing, your intentions with your "besties" invite insecurity.

I respect that friends have varying degrees of intimacy as a result of history or whatever. But that's not the chat here - the chat is that the intimacy is being nurtured until there's a chance for sexual interaction. The intention changes a lot.

I want you guys to have your bestie-to-lover story in peace, openly. Not this game you are all playing which includes seeing other people and subjecting them to your slow-motion romcom life with your bestie. You are grown.