I just had the most unpleasant exchange with a man on here who dm'd me to demand I interact with him. Listen, guys, consent is real. Boundaries are real. Respect this. If a woman (or anyone) tells you to back off--back the hell off. Why do women have to keep telling you this?

Don't follow women when they don't want to talk to you. This isn't hard to understand. No does mean no. And if a woman says she feels harassed, it doesn't matter what YOU think/feel. Get it? And this is a guy I've had pleasant exchanges with for several years. So disappointing.

I used to get this all the time IRL before I was paralyzed back when I could be in the world solo: Men who want you to smile, want you to say hi, just want to ask you a question. It's not friendly, it's crossing boundaries. I am a very friendly person, but don't cross that line.

Also, millions of women have been sexually assaulted. So you pushing and pushing to get your needs met or your ego stroked is freaking triggering for many women. It doesn't matter that this is virtual space--the unpleasantness factor has antecedents. So listen when we say NO.