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Today is the 3rd-ever International @PronounsDay! I& #39;m so excited & I want you to be excited, too. Here are a few things to know about pronouns:
1. Many #trans people including me HAVE to out ourselves if we want others to gender us correctly (cont)
#PronounsDay
1. Many #trans people including me HAVE to out ourselves if we want others to gender us correctly (cont)
#PronounsDay
YOU CAN HELP normalize introducing yourself with your pronouns by doing a couple of REALLY simple things:
- Edit your @Twitter & FB bio, email signature, name tag at work, and anything else you can think of to include your #pronouns, whether you& #39;re #trans or cis.
#PronounsDay
- Edit your @Twitter & FB bio, email signature, name tag at work, and anything else you can think of to include your #pronouns, whether you& #39;re #trans or cis.
#PronounsDay
- ALWAYS introduce yourself with your name AND pronouns, eg: "I& #39;m Danielle & my pronouns are she/her."
2. Understand that correct pronouns are NOT optional or a preference. In some jurisdictions, it& #39;s against sex-based discrimination laws to misgender someone.
#PronounsDay
2. Understand that correct pronouns are NOT optional or a preference. In some jurisdictions, it& #39;s against sex-based discrimination laws to misgender someone.
#PronounsDay
- NEVER say "preferred pronouns." It& #39;s not a preference. My pronouns are she/her; anything else is inaccurate.
3. IF YOU MAKE A MISTAKE, do EXACTLY this and ONLY this:
- "I was telling him—sorry, her—that she might consider asking a librarian for help" etc.
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3. IF YOU MAKE A MISTAKE, do EXACTLY this and ONLY this:
- "I was telling him—sorry, her—that she might consider asking a librarian for help" etc.
#PronounsDay
DO NOT make a big deal out of apologizing. Do not even pause. Just correct it and move on. Seriously, it& #39;s truly that simple.
4. If you don& #39;t know someone& #39;s pronouns, ASK. Here is how you ask someone& #39;s pronouns:
"Hey, what pronouns do you use?"
"She/her."
"Thanks"
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4. If you don& #39;t know someone& #39;s pronouns, ASK. Here is how you ask someone& #39;s pronouns:
"Hey, what pronouns do you use?"
"She/her."
"Thanks"
#PronounsDay
5. Don& #39;t argue with someone about their pronouns—even if those pronouns are unfamiliar to you. That& #39;s for YOU to work on, on your own time.
DO NOT ask follow-up ?s. Someone giving their pronouns is NOT an invite for a free on-demand private lesson ab trans issues.
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DO NOT ask follow-up ?s. Someone giving their pronouns is NOT an invite for a free on-demand private lesson ab trans issues.
#PronounsDay
6. If you don& #39;t know someone& #39;s pronouns, NEVER MAKE ASSUMPTIONS! If you don& #39;t know the correct ones, DEFAULT TO "THEY/THEM" or simply don& #39;t use any.
- "Someone left their sunglasses."
- "See that person over there? The person with the crop top & long red hair."
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- "Someone left their sunglasses."
- "See that person over there? The person with the crop top & long red hair."
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7. If you don& #39;t know someone& #39;s pronouns, DO NOT use honorifics like "sir" "ma& #39;am." Yes—even in the South!
If you& #39;re accustomed to calling elders, customers etc "sir/ma& #39;am" it may feel impolite at first. But misgendering is MUCH WORSE. Just leave it off instead.
#PronounsDay
If you& #39;re accustomed to calling elders, customers etc "sir/ma& #39;am" it may feel impolite at first. But misgendering is MUCH WORSE. Just leave it off instead.
#PronounsDay
8. Some people try out several pronouns to find the right ones for them. Others, for example genderfluid people, have more than 1 set of pronouns they use, or even change which pronouns are right for them from day to day or even throughout the day.
#PronounsDay
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DON& #39;T ARGUE. If someone tells you different pronouns 1 day to the next, just say "OK" & switch.
9. Understand that using "obvious" pronouns is a form of #privilege. Trans people are misgendered CONSTANTLY—it hurts to get called "sir," as a trans woman, when checking out...
9. Understand that using "obvious" pronouns is a form of #privilege. Trans people are misgendered CONSTANTLY—it hurts to get called "sir," as a trans woman, when checking out...
…at the grocery store, yes. It hurts a lot more to get called "sir" at a job interview. There& #39;s a reason #trans women according to data on the subject experience a 1/3 drop in income after coming out—& of course, coming out & transitioning involves huge expenses, on top of that.
Life is already hard for trans people. Using the correct pronouns is free. YOU can make a difference.
Speaking of privilege—
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However you celebrate today, I hope this has been educational for you. I will now host an #AskMeAnything #AMA about #trans/ #LGBTQ issues, #pronouns #PronounsDay, my history as a #trans woman or anything else 
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- Danielle Muscato, she/her
Civil-rights activist, public speaker
- Danielle Muscato, she/her
Civil-rights activist, public speaker
