Stay away from people who punish you for things that happened to them long before you were even in their life.

Signs to watch out for
- Unhealthy obsession with the past, including past people & past events, usually revealed to you very on through meeting them.

- You may find that they are so deeply attached to that time that you almost wonder if it were just yesterday, the way they speak about it with more relevance than even the present moment, (only to learn that it was a while ago.

- The period of time that they are caught up in, appears to be synonymous with a certain event that they found stressful or traumatic. And very early on they will use the tale of this to feign intimacy with you.

- You almost begin to feel responsible for the trauma they experienced in the past, or at least responsible for shielding them from experiencing anything more or similar of the sort.

- You go from being their listening ear & keen helper, to being somebody who is obliged to always listen to them, obliged to be there at their beck & call & if you cannot? This will be translated as abandonment.

- This person tells you about all of the people in their life who have ‘let them down’, to create an unmoving sense of loyalty within you, lest you not dare to add to add to the growing list of people who couldn’t be trusted.