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But when is international nouns day?
Seriously though. I missed an opportunity to discuss something on coming out day, so consider this a late entry, or a collaboration? I am the world's greatest crossover event, etc.
I am already pretty out. But I also feel like I'm coming out all the time. Sine of that as I evolve, some just as I meet people. It's not really a day. It's a life.
But I'm currently in a weird one. I've been telling people I'm non binary, and that my pronouns are they/them for years, when brave or tired or safe enough.
But I feel, increasingly, like my self is much more aligned with woman and she/her pronouns. Stronger than fem presentation. I've been experimenting with people using those pronouns and labels. And it fits? It works?
But I still feel like I'm on some blurry line. Possibly still politically nonbinary?? Maybe just practically a woman?? Maybe validly both, or on the line between?
And while I would defend to the end someone else's right to call themselves a nonbinary woman. I struggle to find confidence in it myself. I struggle to explain it, even as its something that seems to fit on some ineffable level.
So how do I come out? How do I describe my squamous mass of gender to the world in a pithy sentence?
At the moment I don't. I just quietly change my pronouns to they/she and get myself labelled as girlfriend and fiddle queen. I change my passport before we've won an X option, and let people make some right assumptions.
And I don't really have an end to this story. Just a statement that I'm still here and you can call me she or they and if you ask me certain questions I might answer simply or complicated and you might get a sigh or a whole bucket of ranting.
And on many levels, none of it matters, I am me and I am beautiful and I am happier than I've ever been with myself.
But that doesn't mean I'm going to stop fighting battles for, with, and in solidarity with a impossibly complex worldwide web of gloriously queer people.
