Almost every man I dated who turned out to be an ain& #39;t shit muhfucka, I knew on some level he wasn& #39;t shit from the beginning.

I needed to make better choices and set better boundaries.

Now, the ones who made it thru the gates after growth? They were GOOD at hiding it...

But even then, they shoulda been gone sooner. I spent a lot of time in life thinking I could love someone enough that they would want to be better. That shit doesn& #39;t work and never will. No one can make a man better but that man, or the RIGHT woman to bring it out.

It& #39;s best to assume you& #39;re not that "right" woman if you bring up an issue and they don& #39;t immediately decide to fix it because you being in their life is motivation. That shit is rare and unlikely, so keep it moving and let em stress someone else out.

My ego and lack of boundaries caused me more heartache than a man ever could. I thought I was way more special than I was, gave myself more credit than I deserved, and people treated me how I allowed them to treat me. EYE did that.

Sure, they participated. But that was my fault

And no, I am not blaming myself for their behavior. I blame myself for allowing it when I knew I deserved better.

That& #39;s why we can& #39;t just sit and call all men trash. Sure some of them are. Some of them aren& #39;t. Some just walk thru life doing whatever until they find someone they can& #39;t live without and then suddenly boom... they change... it only takes one. https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤷🏼‍♀️" title="Achselzuckende Frau (mittelheller Hautton)" aria-label="Emoji: Achselzuckende Frau (mittelheller Hautton)">