The Facts About & Impact of Men Lying to Women - A Thread

Baseline: Integrity is doing what you say that you’re going to do when and how you say that you’re to do it. Integrity can not be fractional, situational, or circumstantial. Truth is an all or noting proposition.

Baseline: Truth is simply the truth. You do not get to negotiate or renegotiate the truth. It is what it is. Your relationship with the truth determines the quality and depth of all your relationships. Most importantly to the relationship with yourself.

Baseline: Respect is the cornerstone of a man’s value system. We demand respect, especially from women. Respect needs three things to work; respect for others, respect for yourself, and respect from others. It’s a give to get process.

It is a man’s underdeveloped/ mutated relationship with respect that determines his relationship with and to the truth. Men (even the most confrontational men) look for the path of least resistance when it comes to what we want from and out of a woman.

It is in our lack of respect that we think that women are too weak or emotional to handle hard truths. It is in our lack of respect that we think that by lying to a woman about what may hurt her emotionally is respecting her to the fullest.

In actuality hiding the truth is not protecting a woman from pain. It is abusing a woman. Those lies are the same as figuratively putting your hands on a woman and beating her into submission. The same as choking her until she passes out.

Those of you who say that I’m wrong or being dramatic in my example have never witnessed or appreciated the impact of your lie to a woman. You were/ are to self absorbed to see how the emotional and mental toll has a physical impact.

Lies lead to gaslighting. You know, the process of making someone think that they’re crazy for what they know but may not be able to prove. The process of transforming a truth into fiction. Now that woman is fighting with her mind.

Lies lead to the sleepless nights, her questioning herself, intense frustration and anger with no outlet. Lies literally lead to weight loss or gain, thinning hair, bad skin, physical pain and a level of anguish I pray that you never know.

All the while you don’t know why she’s tripping. It was just a lie. You’re a good guy. You handle business. She’s taking it too far. At least that’s the lie that you tell yourself. But that’s just the beginning.

The funny thing is you’d go to war behind someone making your mother, daughter, sister, or homegirl feel like that. But you can’t see your woman through that same lens. That’s a lack of emapthy on your part. And you’ll pay for it.

For every action there is a reaction. The reaction is your lies have pushed her out operating in her feminine and to operating in the masculine. You never want to see that. Why? Because, you don’t have the emotional strength to deal with that “her”.

If you’re lucky she’ll show you grace that you don’t deserve and leave you. If you’re not, she’ll put the game on 2 players and wreck your world. Get this, she’ll lie better than you. Your arrogance won’t even let you see her lies by omission.

But that’s a thread for another day. If you only choose to be truthful because of possible consequences vs. because it’s the right thing to do, you might as well keep lying.

In closing, TRUTH and RESPECT are two inseparable sides of the same coin. Anything other than complete truth equals a lack of respect. So start with being completely transparent, truthful and respectful with yourself regardless of the consequences.

If you’re a man that chooses not to stand on TRUTH and live in RESPECT, you’ll end up on you knees sinking in the muck and mire of your lies and dying of disrespect. Thanks for coming to my Wood Talk. #woodlife #woodlaw #woodtaughtyou