I had a friend in college who& #39;s friendship/life/success philosophy was basically "Make friends with people who are better than you so you can learn from them how to be better" and the older I get the more I realize how bullshit and gross that is?

It views friendship as something that needs to labor in order to have value. This person also conflated friendship and career/success all the time. They were also often unhappy, since they tied happiness to output -- a high grade, a successful project, a "good" career.

The way I move thru life, and the way I& #39;ve always moved thru life naturally, is I& #39;m just myself and I vibe with the people I vibe with. You meet people where they are, they meet you where you are, and you& #39;re just in the present together. I& #39;ve found my best friends like this!

You don& #39;t have to ask more of friends than just their company and to be present with you. Presence is everything and it can mean different things to different people. You don& #39;t need to meet X requirements to be a friend, you just gotta Be (Present). Existing together is awesome!