Don’t listen to the “never go to bed mad” advice. At some point in your marriage you will be exhausted. You will feel like everything is wrong. You will feel like the world is crumbling. Get 8+ hours of sleep and see how you feel. Exhausted is not the moment to hash it out. https://twitter.com/freepenfreemind/status/1318192287504019463

Your closest circle must be women that want your marriage to succeed. Not women that bag on men (in particular yours) when days get hard. Your best friends shouldn’t be bitter angry women with a chip on their shoulder. They should want your marriage to work.

Remember the people you complain to when you’re mad at your man don’t have to forgive and forget. They aren’t your husband’s wife. You are. If you make them hate him.... you will probably make up and move on but remember....they probably won’t.

Resentment kills attraction. Loss of attraction kills your sex life. A dead sex life changes your husband’s connection to you.

Confront your creeping resentment early for the long term health of your marriage.

You aren’t your husband’s mother. You are his wife. If you want to be someone’s mother have some kids.

Don’t hold a grudge. Waiting to unleash that anger a month later when something totally unrelated happens that makes you mad is not an effective strategy with most men.

Praise your husband. Not like a child getting a good grade, like a grown woman proud of her man. Is he strong? Tell him. Did he make you feel safe when that guy kicked off at the coffee shop? Tell him.

Men often feel emotionally distant without sex. Women often need to feel emotionally close to want to have sex.

Ride the wave between these two needs. When you get it wrong, try to move back to the middle.