A thread regarding findommes and financial domination from a humble submissive:

I see so many in the findom community tweeting a variety of misleading information. These are just some of my own personal thoughts (cont’d)

1. Verification is important, but many subs who seem to value verification do not understand what it is. Verification is not a 10 second twitter clip. Verification is accounts across multiple platforms, platforms that require verification to access (i.e., OF, AVN, IWC).

2. Subs claim they don’t want to submit to larger dommes because larger dommes “expect money for doing nothing”. This is simply untrue. Larger dommes have grown and separated themselves from the pack because of the skills in BDSM, and their skills building their brand (cont’d)

2.A. The real reason many subs don’t want to submit to larger dommes is because they cannot be manipulated into providing domination and content for free.

2.B. I have served @footbaddie for a long time. I served when she was growing a smaller account, and I’ve served her now with 28k followers. Her domination of me has not changed. At all. And that leads me to my final point

3. If you are looking for free kink, do not come to the findom community. Go to fetlife, or explore kink with your partner. While there are many “instadommes” and fake “submissives” who only want to wank... there are still some very real dommes and subs in this community

3.A. Findommes expect to be paid for their time, effort, and skills. However, many of them enjoy the aspect of femdom too. Financial domination is the foundation of my D/s with @footbaddie however we both love exploring kink with one another.

3.B. Maybe if submissives thought more about pleasing their Domme, and less about their own orgasms then we wouldn’t see so many complaints about tributing. Or maybe, these subs are simply in the wrong community. When I tribute my Domme, it makes ME happy too

3.C. My Domme is happy because she loves financial domination, and I am happy because my Domme is happy. It doesn’t mean we can’t explore other areas of BDSM, because we do.... but the foundation of building a D/s relationship with a Findomme is the financial domination.

3.D. If you build a solid foundation, loyalty, trust, kink, and friendship can all follow! But approaching as strangers and expecting to practice kinks that are incredibly vulnerable (and sometimes dangerous) is a bit out of touch.