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I feel like I'm not a judgemental person. maybe I'll be like wtf in my head but in my very personal opinion, I believe that what you do with your judgement, how you express it or how you learn from it, matters more than the judgement itself.
I can look at you and in my head go 'that makeup is awful'. but what then? do I say that out loud? no, I wouldn't want someone to say that to me. so what do I do then?
well does this thing make you happy? yeah maybe, it's not my business. is this thing hurting me in anyway? no, if it did then it would be my business.
ok so what's next. next I say to myself "why does that matter, they're happy and maybe they looked in the mirror and knew they looked gorgeous" and then i let that shit go.
why does it matter what *I* think about *your* makeup
I guess validation
I guess validation
idk why I'm making this thread I might delete this but idk.
if you can look at someone and think that they're ugly you have the power to stop yourself and ask why it matters that you think they're ugly
their physical appearance isn't for you, and even if they did their makeup for you, you can at least be respectful about your opinion
opinions should never be harmful to someones wellbeing. if I were to watch a beauty youtuber and they did their eyeliner in a way that I felt didn't compliment their eyes the way they seemed to want it to,
I'd comment something like "great job on this video! your makeup looks amazing! as someone with eyes similarly hooded to yours I was wondering if you'd want to try doing it like xxxxxxxx xxxxx xxxxxx? this is just from person Experiences though so don't take this to heart lol!"
but do you see how that's different from "your eyes are too deep set for that eyeliner you have to do a thinner wing or else you look like a mountain troll 
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like do you see how one seems more helpful versus the other one could be helpful but at the same time could really hurt someone's feelings?
like I'm not saying you have to go out of your way to be overly kind to anyone to avoid hurting someone's feelings,
but I'm saying that it's so much fucking easier to be nice sometimes when you think about how you'd want it to be said to you.
sugar coating things doesn't always work either. sometimes you have to just lay down what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, and how you expect it to be done. but you can still be kind.
when I need to get my groups book presentation ready by friday I tell everyone what they need to do on Monday. I have person 1 take the notes because they retain information better than person 2 or I, I have person 2 help set up the slides,
because I know that they can make them with efficiency and accuracy to the notes and the chapters we all read.
and then I present during class because I'm not as afraid of our teacher as the other two are, and I usually have a decent idea of what's happening around me (usually).
but that's different from just expecting everything to be done on Friday morning, no explanation, no preparation.
yeah I want a good grade and I know we can get it, I know my teammates are smart although kinda really lazy, but I know that being kind and telling them exactly what's happening is different from just yelling.
idk I really don't know why I'm ranting like this but it's 2 am and I accidentally drank coffee at 1am and I miss my girlfriend.
