Anyway shoutout Leslie Feinberg who gave voice to this so expertly and succinctly and said “I have had people use my ~correct~ pronouns who couldn’t see me, and people who I was in community with use my ~wrong~ pronouns” https://twitter.com/lex_about_sex/status/1317980616277790722

I infinitely more joy and community being affectionately called “sis” and “girl” by respectful black girls/women and older black gays I randomly meet than I do white libs forcefully calling me “they” to assuage their own ego under the guise of respect for me/ my identity

To be clear “girl” and “sis” aren’t gender neutral terms- just because I worry y’all might misinterpret that point

What’s more- and this is its own convo is that despite me being nb I am still a Black Woman, because it’s a vital identity to me, but thats a convo for another time