parents listen up.

don't tell your child to sit still/stop fidgeting, it's a coping mechanism. don't take away cellphones as punishment, you are making the issue worse. don't guilt trip your children, it will make it hard for them to stand up for themselves when they're older. +

don't finish their sentence for them if they talk too slowly, they know what they want to say, let them get there. don't belittle their feelings, just because you don't see any reason for them to be anxious or stressed doesn't mean they're making things up.

don't use the "as long as you're under my roof, you go by my rules" tactic, it gives them motivation to want to leave sooner than they should.

"because I said so" isn't a reason for anything. you can't expect us to do/not do xyz if you don't tell us why. we want to know why we should or shouldn't do xyz. not providing a valid reason provokes us to do it and find out for ourselves since you won't tell us.

stop the double standard. we can't be "too old" for certain things but "old enough" for other things depending on what you want us and don't want us to do, it's frustrating being treated like a child and expected to act like an adult.

not all online friends are paedophiles and predators. sometimes we genuinely meet people that make us happy. teach us how to be safe online instead of just prohibiting us from talking to ppl online. we're gonna do it anyways so why not make sure we're being safe?

barging into rooms without knocking or giving any indication that you're coming in is an invasion of privacy and causes a lot of stress and anxiety. we aren't hiding anything. knocking is just common decency and basic respect. our room is should be our safe place.

telling girls that a boy likes them bc they're picking on them is going to be the reason they don't report any abuse or assault done to them in the future.

don't demand access into their phones, it builds a wall of distrust. don't snoop through their things, that's an invasion of privacy. respect is not given, it's earned - if you don't treat your child with respect, not be surprised when they return the favour.

defending ourselves in an argument or debate is not talking back. stop saying it's talking back, this is going to prevent us from speaking up for ourselves in future.

anyways, this is just me being frustrated but if there's anything I missed or you want to add to this, drop in the comments

don't force your kids to hug relatives, not everyone is comfortable with physical contact and it's going to teach them that they need to do things that other ppl tell them to do, even tho theyre uncomfortable. for all you know, that relative could've done smt to +

- break their trust. don't teach them to be nice to ppl they feel unsafe around.