The Agüero touching thing isn’t bad bc it was intended to be harmful or caused active harm. It’s bad because it’s not isolated from its cultural implications: that it’s okay to touch women in ways that one would not touch a man. It’s important to read “harmless” sexism as sexism.

It can feel like small things are being “blown out of proportion,” but it’s crucial to approach things in their cultural contexts. We can’t on one hand speak out against discrimination & violence against women & on the other hand brush off small sexist slights. It’s all connected

You can be a “nice person” and act in ways that are conditioned by the systemically harmful structure of the society you’re raised in! No one is perfect! But we must be accountable for our mistakes, even when they seem small or harmless.

We really need to dismantle the idea a “good person” is impervious to the racism/sexism/ableism/homophobia that they grew up in, and instead realize that to combat these things we have to be able to own our mistakes when we fuck up. You don’t have to be a bad person to fuck up.

Anyway, today in the football universe was tiring. I’m tired. Im hoping Virgil Van Dijk and Thiago are alright, and that people can stop being belittled and called over-sensitive for trying to make the world a better (more equitable) place for all people.