making a thread about intimacy and trans/gnc people.

i retweeted something today that (obviously) had some extremely transphobic replies, so… for my own sanity and anyone it interests

tw // transphobia, violence

i'm agender + used to be pretty involved w/ the LGBTQ+ community here in LV. i've met a disturbing # of transpeople who faced violence at the hands of cispeople who felt "lied to".

if you're cis and something in this thread upsets you, you should probably stop & think about why.

i'm referring to all trans/gnc people w/ the "trans" umbrella term (character count)

firstly -- no transperson is obligated to tell you that they're trans. ever. their body is their business & that's the end of it.

unfortunately, it's a little more complicated than that when it comes to intimacy. transpeople (esp trans-fems) have been killed for not disclosing their transness before sleeping with cispeople (esp men).

the ONLY reason a transperson *should* come out is if not doing so could put them in danger.

for example, a pre-op transperson who plans on sleeping w/ someone they don't know the [LGBT-related] views of.

ideally you'd have the time to learn all about that beforehand, but… sometimes you just wanna blow a load n hit the road. idk. that's your business.

casual sex/sex work is valid ofc, it's just more dangerous for that reason.

now for the whole "lying/rape" thing transphobes like to bring up when it comes to post-op people sleeping with them…

it's neither.
transpeople aren't deceiving you in any way. that's their gender, their body, and who they are. argue with a wall.

cat pic bc queer violence is depressing.

my DMs are always open if you need someone to talk to (or have questions). stay safe