I hear dating horror stories all the time in my line of work and a definite double standard I’ve noticed is that...

A lot of women will frequently ignore the worst red flags because they’re socialized to believe they have to “work it out.”

Meanwhile, some of the men —

— they’re dating will be like, “Omg, you breathe, exist and have basic human emotions. Gotta flee!”

Next time — do more of what some of these men do. Take incompatibilities seriously. Be picky AF.

Don’t rise to their point of delusion in manufacturing flaws of course.

Just notice the existing ones. Take inventory. Connect with your disgust, outrage, anger, visceral feelings of, “Ew!” as Gavin de Becker would say.

Men on average have been socialized to do this for centuries, to the point where they will nitpick.

Women just need to—

— START acknowledging the absurd things and start with the basics, because they’ve been so deeply programmed to rationalize the heck out of the unacceptable.

Also — yes, these are generalizations and there are always exceptions and yes there are of course toxic women and female narcissists out there. This thread is just about pointing out a very common double standard in modern romance and societal gaslighting that women should—

— be aware of and take heed to raise their own standards as a result.