You are not going to find your healing from having somebody who you tried to love for so long, finally turning around and seeing that you have been worthy all along. This is a false potentiality of healing.

The truth is, this isn't even an option at all. The healing of your emotional world and your mental world comes when you finally submit yourself unto healing by admitting that there are deeply fundamental things from the past that you still need to work on and work through.

This is the journey that we call shadow work or the dark night of the soul, in which you allow yourself to fully collapse into and feel all of your emotions. You have to learn how to shield yourself and shield your emotions from people who only want to bring you more pain.

Going in the opposite direction that they are travelling in, is how you authentically begin this process of finding your healing. It's also important to remember that healing is actually a journey and a process that you go on. It's not something riddled with a quck fix

and you are going to need some shelter and protection with the people who you have around you.

It does not mean to lean on them, but it is about understanding that although you are not to rely on other people during this time, there is actually love coming in for you from

multiple areas, and multiple streams and flows of compassion and recognition. This is particularly important for you to remember and settle into the truth of, if you were in a relationship in which you allowed yourself to become isolated

or if you made this person your sole world in such a way that you felt as if they were the only people/person who could make you feel loved, or as if they were the only person who truly loved you.