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Women need to learn to do what they want and feel is necessary to do for their bodies and their lives not what’s gone make a man happy. Women lose every-time they choose a man’s happiness over their own.
I’m not just rambling, I’m talking about what I know, have experienced, or seen. Stop choosing these men overing choosing yourself ladies. It’s so easy for men to walk away, leave you empty handed, a single BM, etc bc they choose themselves 1st. Learn to act/think like a man.
When I say learn to act/think like a man that does not mean throw your femininity out the window and be so aggressive and dominate that you don’t know when and when not to be vulnerable. It means choose you 1st in everything when it comes to hobbies, school, work, children, etc.
Men are taught to be selfish and go after what they want and what benefits them from day one even when it comes to women so you maybe cutting flips of the d***, cooking everyday, paying half the bills, and being a therapist while he’s taking it all and prepping for another woman.
You’re left discombobulated, penniless, and traumatized because you fail to take heed to what women who have been through the BS with men and men who have admitted their ain’t s*** ways says because you want to be chosen and that’s ok but choose you first. Learn to remain you.
Once you lose who you are in a relationship ladies you’re free game to be broken, used, controlled and discarded and that’s the disconnect that comes between women/men bc even though men aren’t smart most won’t let a woman use them. They even complain about the bare minimum.
This disconnect between men and women mentally and emotionally is why you can be a ride or die for a man for years with no wrong and sometimes no children and he creates/gives all that to a woman he meets after you w/in 6 months. Want to attract the right men? Put yourself first.
As cliche as it may seem the “good men” or decent men with good hearts, money, etc. willing to love you, spend on you and invest in you are attracted to women with confidence, who love themselves, goal oriented, and take no BS and they will put you on a pedestal if you demand it.
I’m not sure why women get caught up in this protect this type of man and forget the others or in being a hero/therapist to a man but you get no benefit from that unless he’s a weak, non-dominant man that’s desperate for love. A lot of us women need to work on us first.
I’m not any man’s savior, peace, or ride or die. I will leave after I’m disrespected/harmed the 1st time. I will not forget who I am, what I love to do, and what I need as an individual. I will continue to put myself and my money first after God. In due time, Mr. Right will come.
A lot of what is needed to be accomplished and created doesn’t include a significant other. Another issue besides being male-centered is women don’t know how to be alone or how to be abstinent for any period of time beyond a few days. Self discipline is vital to your soul.
If I had known 5 years ago what I know now with life, love and business despite my parents teachings because they didn’t teach everything and somethings I had to learn on my own but I would have saved myself a lot of heart ache and sleepless nights. Love you first ladies, please!
If it don’t feel right to have a child right now, don’t have a child even if that means you have to take a Plan B, use birth control (which is my last recommendation) or get an abortion trust your intuition. If that means cutting a man off because you don’t feel the same, do it.
I know there are some unstable male creatures out here but you can still walk away and be free if you really want to be bad enough; don’t stay in these men presence because of fear or obligation. It’s too many men in the world and folks willing to help/protect you.
Go where you’re - loved, valued, tricked on, loved out loud, accepted for who you are, provided for, spoiled, invested in, taught, encouraged, etc. and be willing to reciprocate for a man who does all that not for these n*ggas who can’t give you $40 and asking you to cook/clean.
Also, stop letting men disrespect you as well, even if they “playfully” call you a b*tch or h*e, constantly. Trust when mad day come or s*** gets tough it won’t be so playful and it may turn into physical abuse. I have dealt w/ a lot of BS from men but never blatant disrespect.
A lot of women my ignore this and of course some men but I ain’t speaking on nothing I’m not aware of. I’m not out here having kids and playing house to no man who not acting and talking about marriage and showing real love. Don’t let fantasy get you broken and left. Choose you!
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