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I am ready to be a husband.
I am ready to serve a wife.
I am ready to start (or expand) a family.
Ok, universe...do your thing.
I am ready to serve a wife.
I am ready to start (or expand) a family.
Ok, universe...do your thing.
A few things:
1. I wasn’t expecting THIS type of reception, so I sincerely thank y’all!
2. A few of y’all are requesting specific details, which is completely fair, so...
3. Since I AM serious, this will now become an ongoing Q&A thread about me
So stay tuned & thanks again
1. I wasn’t expecting THIS type of reception, so I sincerely thank y’all!
2. A few of y’all are requesting specific details, which is completely fair, so...
3. Since I AM serious, this will now become an ongoing Q&A thread about me
So stay tuned & thanks again
But first thing's first, so lemme get this out of the way, b/c this is important:
Yes.
I can cook.
Yes.
I can cook.
Now, let's being with a few questions posed in the thread, from quote tweets, & some I just thought of...
Q: How old are you? What are the minimum & maximum ages you're open to?
A: I turn 37 on November 8, so as I've stated before in the comments, I'd prefer someone in their 30s at the very least as the minimum.
Maximum, however...honestly, I don't have a limit. I LOVE wisdom.
A: I turn 37 on November 8, so as I've stated before in the comments, I'd prefer someone in their 30s at the very least as the minimum.
Maximum, however...honestly, I don't have a limit. I LOVE wisdom.
Q: Are you willing to move to [insert location here]?
A: Here's where it gets tricky. Normally, my answer would be "yes" b/c planes, trains, & automobiles; we live in a much smaller world.
However, since I've decided that it's time to prepare to run for public office (cont…)
A: Here's where it gets tricky. Normally, my answer would be "yes" b/c planes, trains, & automobiles; we live in a much smaller world.
However, since I've decided that it's time to prepare to run for public office (cont…)
…it's clear that I must remain here to represent my potential constituents in Houston/Harris County/Texas
So the more definitive answer is: unless you're ok w/ the possibility of moving to Houston -OR- joining me in some frequent traveling back & forth, it probably won't work
So the more definitive answer is: unless you're ok w/ the possibility of moving to Houston -OR- joining me in some frequent traveling back & forth, it probably won't work
Q: How tall are you? How much do you weigh?
A: I stand proudly at 5'10" & carry my 185-lbs physique quite well.
(NOTE: I'm normally in the high 160s/low 170s, but I did put on some quarantine weight & ballooned up to 208 at one point, so to get back down to 185 is progress)
A: I stand proudly at 5'10" & carry my 185-lbs physique quite well.
(NOTE: I'm normally in the high 160s/low 170s, but I did put on some quarantine weight & ballooned up to 208 at one point, so to get back down to 185 is progress)
Q: Are you open to interracial marriage?
A: Black Woman.
That's a complete sentence.
…but I'll still elaborate why. (cont…)
A: Black Woman.
That's a complete sentence.
…but I'll still elaborate why. (cont…)
If it were just casually dating, sure.
But I am a Black Man. There is no other person on the planet who could fully know -- not "understand," not "empathize"…KNOW -- me, my world, and everything it entails as a Black Man than a Black Woman. (cont…)
But I am a Black Man. There is no other person on the planet who could fully know -- not "understand," not "empathize"…KNOW -- me, my world, and everything it entails as a Black Man than a Black Woman. (cont…)
This isn't to disparage women of other races or ethnicities; never my intent.
We're talking about life partnerships, however. And in a world where race seeps into every crevice of every issue, I want -- nay, NEED -- a partner who can best navigate alongside me.
Black. Woman.
We're talking about life partnerships, however. And in a world where race seeps into every crevice of every issue, I want -- nay, NEED -- a partner who can best navigate alongside me.
Black. Woman.
Q: Would you consider marrying a Republican/conservative woman?
A: Nope. I also have no interest in someone politically apathetic/ignorant/irresponsible.
If you’re aligned w/ a party hellbent on screwing us, or you can’t grasp basic government & civics 101...whew, hard pass.
A: Nope. I also have no interest in someone politically apathetic/ignorant/irresponsible.
If you’re aligned w/ a party hellbent on screwing us, or you can’t grasp basic government & civics 101...whew, hard pass.
Q: Can you elaborate on your position on children?
A: Yes...and long answer incoming, so buckle up.
First & foremost, do I love children? Yes. Would I be a great father? Abso-fucking-lutely!
Would I feel incomplete or disappointed if I DIDN’T have kids? Not at all.
(cont...)
A: Yes...and long answer incoming, so buckle up.
First & foremost, do I love children? Yes. Would I be a great father? Abso-fucking-lutely!
Would I feel incomplete or disappointed if I DIDN’T have kids? Not at all.
(cont...)
And I say that last part b/c here’s the important point:
When it comes to children, it’s not ME who makes the ultimate decision...it’s ALWAYS hers, regardless if it’s a natural birth or adoption
Whomever I fall in love w/ & devote my life to may not wants kids
(cont...)
When it comes to children, it’s not ME who makes the ultimate decision...it’s ALWAYS hers, regardless if it’s a natural birth or adoption
Whomever I fall in love w/ & devote my life to may not wants kids
(cont...)
...for a myriad of reasons; same goes for the ability to even have kids
And regarding natural birth: it’s not men who have to carry around a whole ass human being for 9 months; therefore, as far as I’M concerned, my/our opinions & desires on the matter are moot
(cont...)
And regarding natural birth: it’s not men who have to carry around a whole ass human being for 9 months; therefore, as far as I’M concerned, my/our opinions & desires on the matter are moot
(cont...)
In short: if my wife/life partner wants kids, be they through natural birth and/or adoption, we’ll have kids & I’ll be the best damn dad ever
If she wants us to build a life w/o kids w/ a bunch of fur babies running around, we’ll do that, too
Ultimately, it’s what SHE desires
If she wants us to build a life w/o kids w/ a bunch of fur babies running around, we’ll do that, too
Ultimately, it’s what SHE desires
Q: How do you know you’re ready?
A: This is, I think, the most frequent question I’ve received.
And at first, I was trying to write out tangible, measurable components that got me here.
For instance, therapy. I swear upon everything, seeing a therapist is the...
(cont...)
A: This is, I think, the most frequent question I’ve received.
And at first, I was trying to write out tangible, measurable components that got me here.
For instance, therapy. I swear upon everything, seeing a therapist is the...
(cont...)
...best thing a person could do for their mental & emotional health. There are pains & blindspots that sessions could help you identify, accept, & heal (it’s why I’m always preaching on this bird app to go to therapy...men, especially)
(cont...)
(cont...)
...then there are things like my financial health and my career path to use as checkboxes for “readiness”
But really, I’ve been doing these things for years and it wasn’t until now that that readiness switch just...clicked.
There are no neon signs saying...
(cont...)
But really, I’ve been doing these things for years and it wasn’t until now that that readiness switch just...clicked.
There are no neon signs saying...
(cont...)
...”hey, it’s that time; you’re good to go”
It’s just...clicks. Like an unexpected revelation, or an epiphany.
And sure, there were internal & external elements that helped suppress that “click” moment:
(cont...)
It’s just...clicks. Like an unexpected revelation, or an epiphany.
And sure, there were internal & external elements that helped suppress that “click” moment:
(cont...)
-Relationships that went bad, which fed into my own insecurities of “not being long-term material”
-Questioning my own emotional intelligence after the failures of said relationships
-Fears of maintaining sustainability after TWO bouts of homelessness & unemployment
(cont...)
-Questioning my own emotional intelligence after the failures of said relationships
-Fears of maintaining sustainability after TWO bouts of homelessness & unemployment
(cont...)
...But then, unexpectedly & unconsciously, that “click” moment happens
Where your brain realizes you’re in a much stronger mental, emotional, & financial state.
When it dawns on you, “yeah...I AM in a great place. I AM emotionally healthy. I AM worthy”
(cont...)
Where your brain realizes you’re in a much stronger mental, emotional, & financial state.
When it dawns on you, “yeah...I AM in a great place. I AM emotionally healthy. I AM worthy”
(cont...)
...So that’s what happened. I was going about my business, my brain did what it does best (which is process my life), and said:
“Hey...you’re ready.
...go tell everybody what you want.”
“Hey...you’re ready.
...go tell everybody what you want.”
