A trine from benefics is like a friend offering to help & letting you know you can borrow their stuff whenever you need.

A square from benefics is like a friend showing up to your house with dinner & leaving some cash in your venmo bc they know you have trouble asking for help.

Aspects are more complex than soft=good, hard=bad.
For ex, Mars casting a “harmonious” trine to a Venus ruled sign totally contradictory to its nature can still be pretty disruptive, though not to the same extent as it would be by hard aspect. Here’s a weird video I made on it https://twitter.com/astrology4bros/status/1265512793350049793